INCARCERATED IN THE ‘APPLY-APPLY-NO-REPLY SYNDROME’ CELL?

STILL STUCK TO THE “APPLY, APPLY” PARADIGM?

WARMING UP TOWARDS A MINDSET CHANGE:

I earnestly wish and pray that India is a nearly 100% entrepreneurial nation!

But then I am also aware that such a wish is easier said than seen in action! This is owing to a multiplicity of etiological factors, one no less crucial than the other! Most of our parents have been, if they were not peasants or farmers outright with only some untilled fields and soil to work on for earning the daily bread, either salaried employees in some offices, or bureaucrats at a distance.

Naturally they tend to view salaried positions as more secure, on the right rack to “prosperity” and helpful for getting “properly settled in life”. In my personal observation, I have noticed this obsessive parental tendency to see their children “properly married and well-settled” as “nice young men and women need to do!”

It’s by way of route shortening towards this objective that parents here, no matter how conversant they may be with prevailing legal bans and penalties for dowry extraction, tend to present their adult male offspring as if they were born geniuses, and also to stiffly demand, on that basis, a huge, often unaffordable dowry amount in cash and kind from the prospective DIL’s family, as far as I have been abler to verify!

While the female gender representative in the scenario is instantly reduced to a saleable and rejection worthy commodity and nothing animate at all, the male human specimen in the context is conferred an important out of his real creditworthiness and real worth as a citizen in life.

[Islam , as a faith, has strictly prohibited this practice, vide the hadiths in Quran, but modern Muslims have chosen to deviate from that book, which they use mostly to swear by, issue fatwas on and not really observe in daily life by its real spirit!

On the contrary, the modalities of behavior that were superimposed on that book’s counsel –as can be amply verified from news available in the public domain globally–have been used with impunity to behead human beings, conquer, pillage, enslave, and impose by force and also to be used as a tool to threaten masses into eternal submission!]

THE ORIGIN OF THIS SYNDROME

The “Apply-Apply-No-Reply” syndrome takes its origin from a conventional thinking pattern. Maybe it was the British that fathered it forth in their own commercial and political interest, but that doesn’t mean we must abide by this till the crack of doom!

Why don’t I like it? Well, the first reason is that the habit of working under another person gradually smothers your own creative instinct to start out on your own and prove your mettle in this wide world!

The second objection is that your plans for growth and higher prospects can be determined by the employer’s fancy at all times. You may ask for a pay rise but he or she may not comply. You need to take an off day but the leave application may get rejected. You wish to sleep a bit late of a Sunday morning but you may not be permitted to. Even your sleep patterns may get affected.

Start thinking out of the box and exit your own long-familiar Comfort Zone and you feel that the world is far larger than how you conceived it as earlier, and that the world has more than a  million openings and opportunities for you too!

I hail from a micro community mistakenly thought as economically also “Forward” though we are far from being so, and I still recall those days of my boyhood when no young woman in my community even dared think of choosing the nursing or medical profession as a lifeline! Even today our community member’s voluntarily opting for the nursing profession in particular is low.

Way too many Wariyars—this community, having a total population of less than a lakh in a rough calculation, and based partly in Kerala but now scattered in many other places– — were either astrologers or school teachers or physicians of the Ayurveda camp. Our parents and elders always suggested to us to apply for some teacher position in the nearest school! Or to take up astrological studies in all seriousness as if those 9 plants were real and living deities in full control of our insigni9fcatn lives on Earth!

Bah!

Few Wariyars had the courage to knock on unfamiliar doors of corporate firms, go to distances to pursue their education and render service through employment.

My late Dad used to attribute this inner diffidence to the bland food that we lived by, as per our so-called tradition, and he often suggested we switch to a largely non vegetarian, active work workout lifestyle instead for our collective progress forward.

BEING A BOSS ON YOUR OWN!

At home we are of the conviction that it’s a waste of time to keep waiting like Mr.Micawber for an Interview Card from some Mr. X in some Timbuktu township after dispatching many applications to many job givers at the same time; it looks similar to taking a lottery ticket and spending sleepless nights anticipating the announcement that we have won the I Prize! What charms us as a family is never having to depend solely on pension at all for leading a prosperous fully self-contained satisfactory life!

In short I wouldn’t like to see any of my descendants fall victim to the “Apply- Apply-No-Reply syndrome at all, God help me!

Of course, the to-be-parents in this family have a far heavier responsibility on their own shoulders, so as to be capable enough to equip their kids before the deadline to take off on their own fueled by their own caliber or talents or skills.

Both the mother to be and father to be have to sit down, and plan well ahead of the arrival of the new guest in the household and read up adequately before he or she actually comes and peeps open his eyes at them!

Both need to save in anticipation enough funds too to deal decently by his or her need for quality education and schooling!

Those parents among us today, that are still relying on this syndrome I referred to, can breathe easier than we can afford to  because they need not plan anything in anticipation at all as the kids are growing up and getting schooled!

Possibly, their investment by way of expenses may also be within their monthly budget, though I have some differences over this inference or presumption!

The way I see it, our parents are overly stupid in both fondling their male kids with gifts before the latter can appreciate the same and also in deprecating and depreciating the girl kids and as a result facing nasty consequences of various kinds too!

To be a boss on your own, dear ones, you need, first of all COURAGE TO BE USEFUL TO THE WORLD AS IT CHANGES FROM MINUTE TO MINUTE!

Or, to borrow these lines from WB Yeats’ Easter 1916,

Hearts with one purpose alone

Through summer and winter seem

Enchanted to a stone

To trouble the living stream.

The horse that comes from the road.

The rider, the birds that range

From cloud to tumbling cloud,

Minute by minute they change;

A shadow of cloud on the stream

Changes minute by minute;

A horse-hoof slides on the brim,

And a horse plashes within it;

The long-legged moor-hens dive,

And hens to moor-cocks call;

Minute by minute they live:

The stone’s in the midst of all.

 

Secondly, you need both family support at the parental level, not necessarily financial, but morale wise at all times till you feel you have developed wings strong enough to fly out on your own.

THIS is too often lacking in the households of all families with ageing parents, retired from salaried positions and not therefore used to thinking either innovatively or creatively!

Thirdly do make sure that the project you are going to implement is USEFUL in some way to the whole public. It may either be a product like brass taps or pencils or a service like DTP, Video Editing or any other!

If your family finances can get used for funding the project you wish to start—and don’t forget to hold detailed discussions on how useful it’s going to be to the whole community well before hand with your parents and elders—well and good.

But if you possess integrity enough to return the amount a bank may advance to you even better.

I would recommend only this latter course of action since a bank loan gives you total responsibility to generate profit enough to return the amount with interest well before your amount comes into the bank’s eagle eyes as a possible NPA and you also get blacklisted as a potential defaulter!!

I have much more to say on this topic of course!

Bye!

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