NONSENSE-PROOFING OUR KIDS:PART TWO!

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NONSENSE-PROOFING –PART TWO

 

WARMING UP:

Modern India is part 3000BC, part 8th and 9th centuries, part early 19th century and part 21st century but in such a non-uniform hotchpotch pattern that it’s impossible to properly understand and analyze the vastly different mindsets and linked lifestyles!

Official incompetence—the “chalta hai” mindset– is a contagious 19th century mindset that the kids unwittingly absorb as they grow up. In much of Rural India daily life is still bullock cart paced for lack of opportunities for earning and for making use of human skills. In urban India kids are under enormous pressure from eternally tensed-up parents to perform in schools as if that alone is enough!

Whether it’s the unregulated sale and over use of antibiotics, or the disease burden that kids carry with them once they get used to the neighborhood thanks to climate change, and low…

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NONSENSE-PROOFING OUR KIDS:PART TWO!

NONSENSE-PROOFING –PART TWO

 

WARMING UP:

Modern India is part 3000BC, part 8th and 9th centuries, part early 19th century and part 21st century but in such a non-uniform hotchpotch pattern that it’s impossible to properly understand and analyze the vastly different mindsets and linked lifestyles!

Official incompetence—the “chalta hai” mindset– is a contagious 19th century mindset that the kids unwittingly absorb as they grow up. In much of Rural India daily life is still bullock cart paced for lack of opportunities for earning and for making use of human skills. In urban India kids are under enormous pressure from eternally tensed-up parents to perform in schools as if that alone is enough!

Whether it’s the unregulated sale and over use of antibiotics, or the disease burden that kids carry with them once they get used to the neighborhood thanks to climate change, and low hygiene sense, or the stonewalling by the government when it concerns the rights of its citizens to universal and equitable healthcare, we see only gold old ways of getting things done as in our forefathers’ days–inefficiency, ineffectiveness, blunder and clumsiness.

I shall illustrate this with a single revelatory example. It’s revelatory because it affects the fate of 10.5 crore Indians, 70% of whom live in rural areas, and of whom over I crore of persons are aged 80 or above too!

During the Budget speech of 2015, the FM offered a revival of Varishta Pension Bima Yojana (VPBY) and then set his eyes on the large amount of money lying as unclaimed amounts in PPF and Post Office Savings Schemes. He proposed to set up a committee to ensure that this amount was used for the welfare of senior citizens.

The committee was set up but it hasn’t met except twice and not taken any decision till date!

Free India is decidedly heavy footed and slow-paced as if by design in the implementation of the many policy initiatives and the projects that have been launched with fanfare.

REAL vs. UNREAL

The Brave New India that is consciously projected by the powers that be is not the real India at all when you get down on the ground. Gender and skin tint discrimination is a given here and no one seems have the clout to opposite it. Characterlessness is a hallmark of the real nation on closer scrutiny.

Kids also learn it from the adults they come across!

Pretend, for instance, to be a deaf and dumb person and then do a series of visits to all public offices across India. You are going to see thousands of officials, bureaucrats and even menial public servants taking it easy, preparing fraudulent cash vouchers or bills for claiming higher expenditure and filching minor things from the office. Every half hour coffee or tea sessions come and go with regularity.

SELF DEFEATING ELECTION PARADIGMS—AND KIDS:

One of the most important deficiencies in Indian family life as far as I have been able to observe it at close quarters is that no brainstorming session or family discussion ever tends to take place under any roof as a habit. It’s the obligation of the parents to help the kids understand adult behavior through news carried over the media. Most parents keep such discussion strictly to themselves and their colleagues, and never involve their kids in such discussions at home in an informal ambiance.

This inclines the kids to blindly imitate the adults without properly understanding the right and wrong issues involved.

Take the case of elections.

The Election Commission spends a huge amount on conducting elections and for ensuring that they are not rigged but still the eventual result is not much satisfactory. A growing kid reads about the 30% criminally minded MPs making laws for the nation and gets the message that being an MP has nothing to do with being honest and patriotic at all.

Bribery and violence hallmark general elections and these get echoed on school and college campuses also in ample measure. The kids are just imitating their own grownups. Similar to the fringe outfits and smaller mushroom parties splintering the votes in a general election, fringe groups among students fall readily in to the trap of politics for the sake of politics and vitiate the atmosphere on campuses making teaching virtually unthinkable.

If you ask the teenager of today why he behaves in a low brow manner both at home and on campuses his answer will be that he has imbibed this lesson from the grownups around him. College campuses today are much inflected by totally un-academic thought streams, demeanor paradigms and furious debates on many anti-national notions.

Student unions get formed solely to promote the political outfits outside the campus and not for fighting for the less fortunate among the students or redressing the shortcomings in the learner community or even for ensuring the wellbeing of the students themselves.

All the Indian mass media bring us a Niagara of information about what is NOT right in the country as a whole every morning and our kids also get to read about all this.

The inference that you and I can derive from this is that unless and until the grownups in this country are poised for a mental transformation the kid generation can’t be saved from nasty behavior in public and in private life.

SOCIAL PROCRUSTEAN BEDS AND KIDS:

Public life in India is composed of much deliberate hypocrisy as you and I know very well. Rahul Gandhi’s mindless attack on the NDA government is one classic instance of such hypocrisy as practiced in the Parliament. He knows that very little of the black money stashed away abroad can be unearthed ever precisely because these amounts went away from India during the License and Permit Raj of the 1980’s, when the Congress ruled the country.

Such hypocrisy can be seen endlessly repeated in improvised weddings, contrived appointments, and managed promotions, lubricated business transactions and dishonest deals with foreign companies too. The recent attempt of the TN government to get Rajiv killers released is also an illustration of the all-too-commonplace Indian hypocrisy!

Social barriers such as caste and community differences are also mostly pretentious and externally imposed. Such barriers are tight to a dangerous extent and anyone that dares to cross them is killed for “honor”!

Everyone is aware that honor killings bring shame to the whole nation but no one is willing to get it abolished.

The sense of being in a hierarchy of some kind is so deeply rooted in daily life that anyone that retired from a high status position and willing to go out for voluntary work is looked at as an oddball of some kind. West of Gibraltar this kind of voluntary activity by well-educated individuals in society is quite common.

At the post office you may see a former CEO helping a blind woman send a letter. On the roads you may come across motherly women offering knick-knacks to children passing by. Beggars value-add their own presence on the roadsides with some music they produce on a harmonica or on a fiddle.

When we bring up kids in such a social ambiance it’s quite difficult for them to learn to think openly and independently. If the parents have been public servants the kids also think that getting into public service is the most desirable thing to do. Open thinking habit is part of education of course but our schooling conventions don’t encourage such lateral creative thinking.

Thus the incompetence of Generation A passes onto incompetence in Generation B without much change!

EXTERNAL TEMPTATIONS IN EDEN FOR KIDS:

Wrong food is the first temptation for all kids. Home cooking, somewhat like breast milk feeding, is no longer in vogue in many townships and cities, with whole families huddling into a vehicle and consuming food from the roadside eateries in the country. This leads to our kids growing up on mostly junk food, liberally spiced with Ajinomoto or MSD.

Wrong educational nurturing is the next one. Too much emphasis on the vernacular of the State in a pluralist nation gives the kid the wrong message about the priority that he needs to give any second language. Thus most kids have no interest in reading in a global language.

Moral Class sessions used to take place in many private schools till recently. However the intention behind this –character formation along sensible lines- was grossly misinterpreted by vested interests and thus these ceased to teach basic etiquette to learners at the right time during their formative years. To add insult to injury Christian private schools in the country, which have been rendering exemplary service to the people in almost all States no matter the level of economic backwardness there, were called conversion centers too.

Science sessions must, as you will agree, be part theory and part practice an observation and analysis. But across the nation scientific thinking is given the goby as if this is deliberate. Instead all kinds of unscientific subjects –astrology and palmistry for instance–are sought to be taught in universities too. India is not globally famous for being a science giant at all of course but today you and I need to think clearly logically and scientifically for earning our daily bread. Technical education needs to be taken a few steps further quality wise if we are to compete with developed nations in industry.

Politics offers another temptation to plastic pliable minds here. False promises are liberally given to catch our kids young and trap them in the political activism realm by party leaders. By the time the young man or woman discovers that these promises were false and wrongly intended, it is often too late in the day! I worked in a college where a large number of boys had to appear in courts of law every week for criminal activities .The explanations they gave me was they would become ministers in the future!

Going abroad to the Arabian Gulf –and returning to India as an NRI swimming in US dollars–was a powerful dream for young men during the 1970-2000 period but the Gulf Dream has largely dissipated now.

KIDS GROWING IN A JUNK MINDSET:

The blackest sin being committed within households is that the kids are brought up with a narrow minded mindset. They are not encouraged to think big in any manner at all.

All the communities that are locked up within the Reservation Privileges Clause are naturally inclined to think ONLY of landing a public job of some kind and then settling down! Many surveys have brought out the fact that those that aspire for wonderful jobs abroad are almost wholly children from unreserved communities.

Injecting the community/ caste mentality into one’s own children is viewed kindly by most parents. Infusing the kid with own faith a few days after its birth—when the kid is not able to think for itself– is also seen as something good.

I am not questioning the good intentions behind these but only the lack of parental maturity! Both these boomerang at times as the kid grows into adulthood and the parents are viewed as the culprits!

Gender discrimination is also injected into the boys in particular and then the girl kids. This is definitely unadvisable.

Encouraging or conniving at the party activism of the kids at school when they ought to acquire basic survival skills is also certainly bad.

THREATS TO KIDS TO MAKING IT THROUGH:

The chances of a typical Indian young man or woman making it through with not too many physical and emotional bruises to the natural end of life are slim in many States. If the man or woman is a whistle blower and honest to the core it’s  likely that the person shall get murdered. If it’s a girl she may get heckled, molested raped and killed too!

The all-pervasive “Chalta hai” mindset whitewashes this of course but what it really signifies is that the Indian Citizen as such is most unsafe in his own nation at all times through the year.

In this respect alone, if not also in many other aspects, India way back even behind the Sub Saharan States! Having to live with Neanderthal ways is yet another problem that the really high caliber persons in this country get to face sometime in their life.

CONCLUSION:

The greatest sin a human being can make is to get born in a country with not only an over populating tendency but also one that also remains deeply splintered over groups, clans, tribes, castes and communities, if not also a host of vernacular languages that are mutually unintelligible. The scenario gets aggravated if there are far too many political pressure groups on the one hand and on the other if the national leaders lack a clear destination sense and clear focus. Daily life is a big risk with 1.71 crore mongrel dogs on our streets too!

The disastrous mistake then is to make do with the life that is given and to jostle through the melee to make oneself heard. Lack of parental awareness, text-based rote -learning oriented learning at school, communal prejudice and hatred, lack of parental skills, too many temptations, plus a surfeit of junk food and junk notions take away the inherent creativity and uniqueness of the individual in a large measure over the years.

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NONSENSE-PROOFING OUR KIDS-PART ONE

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Introduction:

I assume and presume that YOU love YOUR child and wish it the best you are capable of! If this doesn’t apply to you, please don’t waste your time reading further!

If someone were to boldly and audaciously attempt SWOT-analyzing this nation India, one would come to the inescapable conclusion that India’s real strength, her weakness, her opportunity and her formidable threat comprises her own people!

It’s our people themselves and no other aliens that refuse to deal justly by our own children! If someone were to apologize to his/her own child on its birthing it’s our own fathers and mothers for their sheer incompetence, clumsiness, lack of skills and internal equipment, and hidden maleficent motives which they share with other like-minded parents!

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Introduction:

I assume and presume that YOU love YOUR child and wish it the best you are capable of! If this doesn’t apply to you, please don’t waste your time reading further!

If someone were to boldly and audaciously attempt SWOT-analyzing this nation India, one would come to the inescapable conclusion that India’s real strength, her weakness, her opportunity and her formidable threat comprises her own people!

It’s our people themselves and no other aliens that refuse to deal justly by our own children! If someone were to apologize to his/her own child on its birthing it’s our own fathers and mothers for their sheer incompetence, clumsiness, lack of skills and internal equipment, and hidden maleficent motives which they share with other like-minded parents!

To put it plainly and with no jot of varnish many parents turn out, when all is said and done and in a final evaluation,  to be living gargoyles and as no better!!

Human birth—in relation to its time and place, if not also to the parents, caste community clan and personal attributes—is entirely and unequivocally an accident , as the whole world meekly acknowledges, but once you and I happen to get born in this country , as contrasted with all advanced nations, prevailing conventions and systems in place take over our destiny, interpret us vide antediluvian criteria, and either relegate us to the garbage bin ever so invisibly and impalpably or elevate us beyond what we are capable of and put us in positions that shackle us in, but  in an entirely different manner!

Recently a DCP in this city—Mr. Sanjaykumar Gurudin IPS– composed a book titled “Is our Child Safe?”; the eminently readable book , addressed directly to parents everywhere, inventories the numerous ways in which our kids tend to be at the receiving end for no fault of theirs! India is the second worst nation for children to be born and brought up in according to data available. The DCP has consolidated his personal observation over 11 years of his active service in this book, whose contents are of immense utility to all kids across the country!

It’s not only that they get abused in reality by all kinds of people around them, including by their biological parents in drunken excess, but also that their using the social media only tends to trick and trap them. Here in India we tend to encourage our kids to address absolute strangers as “uncles” or “aunts” out of what we take to be social courtesy. This lets those men and women get easy access to our kids at any time of the day. We the parents get really traumatized only after our kids get murdered after a sodomy attempt by such “uncles” or after they get whisked away to some other township by such “aunts”!

Marvelous technology, galloping as it does forward rather relentlessly day by day, has brought within reach of our children all kinds of globally networked devices and gadgets such as phones, tablets, phablets, laptops and desktops, and the whole human corpus of knowledge accessible through the modern miracle known as the Internet but it has conveniently not given them the wisdom too about how to how to use these sensibly and intelligently and avoid getting tricked and trapped!

Both morbidity and mortality are a kid’s unavoidable companions at least till he or she is 5.India has never felt ashamed enough to be smarter in this area than many other South Asian nations equally ignominious or for trailing lamely behind even Sri Lanka!

Unless you are lucky enough to get born in one of the Southern states, you stand a very good chance of being buried in the desert sand, minced to pieces inside your mom’s womb, flung into the garbage bin on the roadside, sold for organ harvesting, or summarily dispatched to the next world either with a hasty feed of pesticide-laced milk-water or with raw paddy rammed down your tender throat!

Hypothetically, all kids born in the country have—just like all families– a birthright to leave her shores for good as soon after birth as they can but most kids are not given this information even by the State government or by their love-professing parents who wish to keep them here to suffer unnecessarily and then do something about it!

Many kids are in addition not lucky enough to do so since they are totally dependent upon the parents. And the parents –mostly blunder heads in sartorial oddities–are usually myopic enough to remain convinced that India is the best country in the whole world, that it’s an emerging tiger economy in many ways, the west is declining day by day, that one’s own faith is the best and most superior and so on.

Indian parents, gullible and Simple Simons that are naive to a fault par excellence, take it for granted that things will somehow improve, society shall be more just tomorrow than today and people will behave in a more tolerable less irritating manner within the week.

At no time in all these years of so called democratic governance have we seen any visible evidence of such all-round improvement or progress in the people around us but still you and I fondly and foolishly go on subscribing to this notion!

A NATION IN MAKE-BELIEVE!

Garbage dirties our roads across the nation supposedly on the go, if not also our minds. Much of India rather unquestioningly and blindly follows a make believe self-deluding mindset whether its faith, local and national politics, daily lifestyle, food consumption, gender identity, health, or parenting.

Even if the local MLA or MP has turned a Nelson’s eye to bringing development to the constituency in any manner, we tend to deify the man or woman. We adore the PM designate even if we know how little global exposure he had had in his education and vision. We let live a political outfit that has done immense harm to the nation’s real aspiration to get ahead all these years!

We turn a blind eye when a university campus gets abused or when caste discrimination has driven a young men to suicide early on. We of course claim to be Good Samaritans at heart though we pass on with an indifferent eye a report in the daily newspaper that a local woman has been done to death by her own kids or when we are told by the media that gang rapes are commonplace in most parts of the country. We don’t ask questions and prefer out of far to live and die like zombies born.

Like hopelessly hopeful Micawbers born, you and I go on hoping for the best even in the teeth of personal conviction that the  nation will come to no good this or that way!

Visit Varanasi-the PM’s own constituency-and you are face to face with malpractices linked to worship, daily bath and cremation that make you gape and gawk.

Absolute corruption and generations-long dishonest ways walk and talk here. The narrow lanes are full of human excreta and horse dung .You may breathe it, smell it from afar, eat it and drink it at will. Even the temple of Kasi Vishwanath is not free from this malaise and malady too!

Death is business here and promise of Moksha—or Nirvana– is just a carrot deliberately suspended at the end of a long stick ,accessible only through bribes, donations, registrations, contributions, euphemistic talk and  downright hypocrisy!

Begging is ubiquitous. Artificial bans and prohibitions, which get waived through bribes, are standard. Poverty and misery is purely put on.

The local dom– or person in charge of cremation- bargains for prime pickings all the way till the body is half burnt and quite un-ceremoniously pushed into the all-suffering River Ganges. And you still speak of cleaning up that river?

Nonsense-proofing our kids against the numerous challenges and ensuring a bright future for them is far from easy in this country basically because of the nationally accepted paradigms, conventions, societal mores and schooling that results in much waste of energy for no purpose. A million challenges are there, deeply rooted and entrenched all around us and directed precisely at our children. Designer systems and beliefs exist to whittle down a kid’s inborn creativity and ingenuity and push him into an Anonymous Citizen pigeonhole till he is no more!

Speaking of schooling, we have in place a rather unrealistic system whereby kid needs to be 5 before he enters a school and he needs to complete his 15th birthday before he is permitted to matriculate!

Teaching is mostly text-based, and rote-learning of lessons learnt is expected an even encouraged. The ultimate school product is expected to be run of the mill in every way in his knee jerk reactions so as to grown into a useful easily manageable and deceivable Indian citizen and no more! The kid is under severe compulsion to mug up dry-as-sawdust teaching materials even if he is cut out to be a prodigy in lateral thinking, inventiveness, creative writing and sports and games.

He is not free to apply for admission to the school that he has a personal liking for.

Schools exist in the public sector primarily to engender the impression in the layman parental psyche that his kid is getting “educated’ while in the private sector it’s all a grand colorful sleight-of-hand magic or masquerade played for generating profit by hook or by crook!

Like their parents almost all kids are inclined to –and also expected to–fall sick almost all the time; that is not unusual of course.

What is unusual here is that globally banned drugs are easily available across the chemist’s counter, false and fraudulent advertisements are permitted to fool the kid generation and distract them from a healthy living style and that they are not allowed to dream at will and chase those dreams in order to fulfill them!

As parents we delight to exert pressure on our own kids till they willy-nilly lose the heavenly trail of glory that they have come into our families with and gradually evolve through needless pain and corporal punishment into the ordinary earthy earthly men and women we ourselves have let us become!

(To be continued tomorrow)

BEGIN WITH YOUR FAMILY FOR A GREAT NATION!

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COMMUNITY-SPECIFIC STRENGTHS/WEAKNESSES!

“INDIA” vs. India!

The India that you and I love and dream of is mostly an abstraction—an India within inverted commas– we ourselves make—as against the sub-continental landmass that is around us!

India is a nation of many hundreds of ethnic minorities in reality. Over the last many millennia we have had infiltration, intrusions, refugee arrivals, tribal migrations and mass exoduses from many nations around us within a radius of 3000 miles or so. Individuals have also arrived here initially as visitors and then chose to settle here. They brought whatever they believed in –cults, creeds notions, practices and conventions—with them too. In almost all ways imaginable India has always been historically a Melting Pot Nation.

Faith-wise we have a majority community following Faith A, and some minorities too following Faith B or C.

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BEGIN WITH YOUR FAMILY FOR A GREAT NATION!

COMMUNITY-SPECIFIC STRENGTHS/WEAKNESSES!

“INDIA” vs. India!

The India that you and I love and dream of is mostly an abstraction—an India within inverted commas– we ourselves make—as against the sub-continental landmass that is around us!

India is a nation of many hundreds of ethnic minorities in reality. Over the last many millennia we have had infiltration, intrusions, refugee arrivals, tribal migrations and mass exoduses from many nations around us within a radius of 3000 miles or so. Individuals have also arrived here initially as visitors and then chose to settle here. They brought whatever they believed in –cults, creeds notions, practices and conventions—with them too. In almost all ways imaginable India has always been historically a Melting Pot Nation.

Faith-wise we have a majority community following Faith A, and some minorities too following Faith B or C.

Faith A happens to be a mere conglomeration of many small communities—labeled in official data as castes, tribes or clans– following a generally common lifestyle marked by a flexitarian food-consumption style and also by the convention of unilateral worship of deity images made of stone or wood.

Faith A followers have a choice explosion when it comes to the deities they wish to worship, which means that they individually believe in some deity from the huge variety of deities available. All Indian villages and towns contain hundreds of ‘temples’ devoted to all these deities, and catering to those that choose to worship them. The ‘priests’ in these temples—variously called pujaris or pandas or such– are often ill-educated and incapable of giving any counsel to anyone and are oddly dressed too. Often they wear threads across their chests too. So the followers find themselves in what is known as Eyeless-in-Gaza scenarios quite often in their individual lives too.

They can never be seen to congregate in a single place for praying to a single deity representing a specific personal attribute or a definable viewpoint. Their families also having a large variety because of internal divisions on imaginary criteria and do not have a single focus in their life.

Families being different, individual members are also different. If you travel from the south of the nation towards the north you are going to find all kinds of people in this segment following incredible lifestyles and subscribing to incredible notions too.

On occasions such as festivals, lots of believers in Faith A assemble in an effort to make it a success of course, though individually they may follow another deity in life!

None of these communities look eye to eye on a single issue and are thus incapable of becoming a single community with a single vision, mission and viewpoint at any time.

Faith B and C have such places called churches or mosques. They are entirely different from Faith A in having only a single Godhead to worship though they do it in different styles and also priests or imams to give them guidance or help when they need help.

Like these relatively major ethnic groups, come from the same stock, we have many other groups of people come from God knows where and happily settled in this country. Life gets interpreted with irreconcilable vast difference by each of these groups too!

Many Bhils in Chambal District in MP are different in how they seek joy—by looting and dacoity–from the Lambadas and Banjaras in Andhra who have largely chosen to make begging their enterprising way of life. The Chinese in Chinatown in Kolkata have families that view the world differently from the Pathans that we have in Punjab and the Sri Lankan Tamils migrated to villages in the South. The one thing that unites them all is their common wish to succeed somehow in their earthly lives at any cost in a melee or vast medley of “Indian” people.

Thus we have a somewhat clear picture of this country at present.

(FAMILY WAYS MAGNIFIED) X = COMMUNITY!

My focus here is on the communities that these faiths helped bring up over the last many centuries and the members of those communities that we have around here with us today—and how they impact the nation‘s future and present in different ways!

India’s communities—no one has this far made a serious study of them except for dissertation reasons—can teach you about our national weaknesses, the serious miscalculations that we have made this far and also about the course correction that we need today as an national entity!

If Community A is known for its fuzzy focus in life, its government also will faithfully come out with policy initiatives hat hold the same confused focus! If Community B is down to earth and utterly non nonsense in its approach to quite mundane things in and around the family home, it will think of slicing the Gordian knots rather than be patient enough to unravel the thread that made it in the first place! If Community C lives by slaughtering animals for a living, or in fisticuffs with sectarian groups, it will also come out with draconian laws as a government or actively promote similar activity in the nation! If Community D believes in death by self-starvation, it will oppose any move for execution by an external agency. And so on!

What is being done today across the nation  is merely symptomatic treatment of a kind —like sending CRPF towards the Naxalite-infested regions to wage a battle with them-but that won’t help us get ahead at all! And to boot, we lose a lot of fine young men to those Naxal bullets or bomb shells too!

Rewind Thinking –or thinking in a reverse direction from the Effect to the Cause–has many obvious advantages.

If we think back from the product of a community –a young man or a young woman, for instance–back to the familial and communal ways that brought out this specific product, we can have the advantage of learning the strengths and weaknesses of that community.

It’s the deep distrust of the Muslim community in this country—for reasons that God alone knows for sure since we know they are neither discriminated nor persecuted here in any convincing way!—that gets faithfully echoed in the home grown terrorist youth that we have been burdened with.

Most drug addicts have long stories to tell us about their own broken lives in the parental homesteads. Ask any drunkard fellow and he will reel out to you many anecdotes about his splintered family and his warring children. Pick a rebellious teenager girl and ask her why she plays a determined and passionate and intransigent Che Guevara at home and she is going to tell you what she thinks of her own old fashioned parents glued to the holy texts or epics of her faith most of the time!

Or visit a home where the children are mostly silent, come out and then query of the neighbors about the children’s parents and they are going to shock you with descriptions of how tyrannical the parents have been. Pay a casual visit to the fisher folk village on the coast and watch how the menfolk behave and you needn’t have to visit their mostly distressed and depressed women who are fated to bear the family burden in full all through the month!

[Evaluated this way, you may feel sure that the numerous challenges/problems that our nation encounters today—and on all days through the year—are outcomes of foolish, half backed thinking and misguided planning that has gone before them.]

ZOOM ON THE FAMILY & PARENTAL INVOLVEMENT!

How a family in a nation or a community spends the 24 hours of a typical day contains the real seed of the nation’s or the community’s overall prosperity or poverty, misery or wealth, sense or nonsense and progress or regression.

As the proverb has it, the essay of the drunkard is mostly read in the tavern that he frequents! A smoking-enslaved father tends to see his own kids take sot tobacco with a vengeance. A once-tyrannical mother is fated to see her daughters push her out of their homes too!

Across Kerala one can notice thousands of comfort-loving families that depend almost entirely on “Gulf remittances” from their men folk employed in the Arabian Gulf emirates. The children in such families are a breed apart , flashing their sunglasses and snazzy bikes on the road and leading a  carefree lifestyle with no concerns or anxiety about their own future once the man abroad returns with no job. The kids from estate owners may also be like these kids.

Many thousands of middle class households with both parents serving in public offices also exist. The kids in these families live within constraints of an imposed kind by necessity and often make it good on their own if given adequate attention in time! One may also notice hard working fisher folk households on the coasts and many peasant families towards the eastern side. Apart from the vast monetary disparity that segregates one group from the other, one may observe the difference in their world views and level of involvement in their own lives too.

If the family is comfort-loving to a fault and dislikes manual labor of any kind whatever happens, it’s a sure shot indication that the family is unhealthy and is being wrongly guided by the man in the house—with the men and the women earnestly trying to get something in return for nothing, with children not laboring for success in tests and examinations and the family feeling synthetically stimulated in drifting towards financial challenges at some time.

If, on the other hand, the family is hard working by habit, the children too shall imbibe that same culture without any external counseling or guidance.

The level of parental involvement in the family varies vastly. This is crucial for family enabling, empowerment and eventual emancipation from an unenviable state.

In my home State there are many families that are totally dedicated to bringing up their kids in the sports and games line. If you visit their home—I have- you are going to find their family conversations mostly hinging around some specific game or sports item too.

The parents are as deeply involved in the game or sports as the children are. Naturally the kids strain themselves to excel in their chosen sports item too. The father of the George Brothers volleyball team set up a volleyball court right in his home courtyard as you all know! It was the father of the Williams Sisters that taught them tennis near their home. Sachin’s elder brother taught him cricket at 4! Pele started to dribble his football at 2 and often slept with it!

THE QUESTION OF FAMILY MISSION AND VISION!

I have asked this question—“What is your family’s eventual mission and your vision of the future?”–at many homes but am yet to get a satisfying response!

[One of the severe limitations of my job- teaching in a college- I understood rather early on in my career. It is that we teachers have very few chances to get acquainted with the public at large. So, soon after I took up my routine job I decided to compensate for this. All through my active years in colleges either in this country or abroad I have actively interacted with people at large too on a parallel track in an earnest effort to understand what they think of life. Towards this purpose I made it a point to help the learners in their extracurricular personality development oriented activities too such as Quiz, Copy writing, Public Speaking, Social Afforestation, Bird Watching and Nature study. (My photography interest has its origin through these).All of them have benefited from the certificate that we issues to them highlighting the4ir enthusiasm and passion. I also visited the homes of these students and often took food at 6heir homes.]

To my knowledge this far it has been but the Tata family alone in India that started their journey this far with a distinct definitely stated mission statement from Jamshedji Nowroji Tata that read, ”the members of this family shall strain their level best to live for India and make India wealthier than it is today with their talents!”. Maybe it’s my ignorance but I don’t know of any other family that did so.

SUMMING UP!

If India at large is to have a focus on what she really needs and which destination she has to strain her level best to reach within a deadline it’s important that Indian families also have something like a mission statement of sorts on their own!

ALL ministries in this country have performed far below their real caliber and potential actually and if they have it’s because they lost their most important mission and vision quite early on after accession to their high position chairs!

Almost ALL ministers have just made their appearance for a time, caused some sound and fury and vanished too without having brought about visible eternally beneficial transformation of a significant kind in the people here. I think family-level enablement and family level empowerment early on in Free India might have brought about unbelievable changes by now in your and my mindset about our national future!

The administrative machinery that this country has –hallmarked by mountains of paper work–still remains almost 60% of what it was in the last two centuries.ICS has given way to IAS but these civil servants are not in a position to either arrive at independent intelligent decisions or implement them without undue pressure and most needless interference by all kinds of vested interests and selfish pressure groups from 360 degrees!

I hear raucous cries of a Hindu resurgence during the Modi reign and aggressive and spiteful cries against non-Hindus too. I see no point in all this noise because I feel that the Hindu in India—as well as the non-Hindus among us– is having a dire necessity to emancipate, liberate, enable and empower himself as a good human being with a sincere mankind loving heart first of all. Political gimmicks of the Ghar Wapsi kind—there have been a few dozen such tricks– just won’t click.

The Hindu in India—no matter the short lived numerical majority!–must begin with enabling and empowering and emancipating his local temple and his own family unit too if he desires to make his community monolithic and strong. His community is going to be weak so long as his temple is dilapidated, disenfranchised and ill-maintained with no community support! A few dozen drastic changes are needed urgently to bring about his initial phase of the community renascence! And he is handicapped by his caste factor here, if not also by his addictive attachment to tradition and superstition!

Renaissance and rejuvenation can come as a blessing only to the people at large—Hindus and non-Hindus at the same time– and not to one segment in particular.

I wish India and Indians will think in depth about all that I have thought aloud for your collective good this morning!DSC01393

VEHICLE GRAFFITI GIVE US AWAY!

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VEHICLE GRAFFITI GIVE YOU AWAY!

Have you ever taken notice of the slightly sexy graffiti written in toilet cubicles within the compartments of Indian trains? Or those scrawled in passion on temples and heritage structures like Charminar? Or those written on the backs of police vehicles?

Well if you are in the comfortable habit of taking notice of such small things in daily life—comparable with that of observing the individual eccentricities in men or women, the peculiar amulets and charms they sport, and the odd idiosyncratic expressions they often get addicted to use in all kinds of contexts, you may consider your own self very fortunate for you can learn a lot about Indians from these!

Sending out smoke rings is an oddity that many possess; spitting every three minutes with metronomic regularity is an OCD of the less irritating kind; doodling lazily on any kind of paper that one…

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